While no relationship is perfect, a good relationship should make you feel happy, cared for, and respected. Reality is, not all relationships are good or healthy. Maybe you at some point or another in your life have been in a toxic romantic relationship. Maybe you’re in one now.
Want to know for sure? Check out these warning signs to know if you’re in a toxic romantic relationship that you should get out of–pronto.
Signs You’re in a Toxic Romantic Relationship
1. You keep giving and giving. Love should be a two-way street and there’s no room for selfishness or unreciprocated emotional investments.
2. Feeling drained. You don’t have no energy in the relationship or in your life in general. Instead of feeling inspired and energized, it’s like your energy is getting sucked out constantly.
3. No trust. Love can’t last for long without trust. It simply won’t go anywhere.
4. There’s hostility. If you feel like you have to have your walls up or be on fight or flight mode whenever you’re with your partner, then it’s best to pack your bags and go.
5. Constant criticism. If you feel like you’re treading on broken glass around your significant other, then then it’s something that is going to drive you up the wall sooner or later.
6. Full or judgment. If you can’t be yourself in the relationship or you have to always watch what you do or say because of feeling constantly judged, then it’s unhealthy for you.
7. Lack of respect. When one or both of you have ceased respecting the other, then there’s no reason to be in the relationship.
8. Never-ending drama. While problems are part of relationship and even help make the relationship stronger, the constant trouble and the self-inflicted woes are simply exhausting and won’t make your relationship grow.
9. Control issues. If your partner is overly protective, possessive, and jealous to the point that you can’t do the things you normally do, then it can be stifling. You can feel trapped.
10. Direction is uncertain. If the person doesn’t want to commit, doesn’t want to take things to the next level, or you simply can’t tell what role you play in their life, then the relationship is uncertain. It’s like it has no direction and you’re better off on your own.
11. Feeling undermined. If you feel like your worth is less than your partner or that you’re not part of their priorities, then it’s best to think of your other options.
12. Full of lies. Every lie in the relationship can chip away at whatever good it is you have until your relationship feels hollow and unreal. Beware, this is one of the hallmarks of a toxic romantic relationship.
13. It brings out the worst. If the relationship only brings out the worst in you or in both of you, without any growth or improvement on both your parts, then your relationship is not only stunted but dysfunctional.
14. People are concerned. If other people who care about you, like your friends and family, are concerned about your relationship, then you may have to take their word for it and reassess your relationship.
15. Physical and emotional abuse. If you’ve been assaulted or manipulated, or abused in any other way, then it’s clear the person doesn’t respect or even love you.
16. You’re simply unhappy. You owe it to yourself to let go.
These words may be harsh, but sometimes, a wake up call is just what you need to get out of a toxic romantic relationship.
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