How to Repair Relationships Your Addiction Destroyed

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Addiction not only affects yourself, it also has repercussions on your relationships. When you were in active addiction, you may have made enemies, broken trust with people, or even destroyed relationships. These are just some of the many tragic effects of addiction.  Read More

Dopamine, Shabu, and You

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Whether you smoke, snort, eat, drink, or inject shabu (or meth), it eventually ends up in your bloodstream and to your brain. Find out the effects of shabu on your body and your brain–on you.

Methamphetamine (meth), or locally known here in our country as shabu, is a powerful stimulant drug that is also highly addictive. Those who take meth experience drastic and dramatic short- and long-term changes in their body and brain activity. These changes also trigger behavioral changes. Read More

Dating in Recovery: Why Wait a Year?

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When you first get out of rehab, it’s natural and normal to feel quite disoriented, confused, scared, and overwhelmed. After all, there’ no drug or alcohol to cushion you from the hurdles of life and the real world. This is why it’s best to be prepared for your new life in recovery and to focus on self-care. Doing these things will help you avoid relapse and therefore set you up for lasting, life-long recovery. Read More

Loving Yourself This Valentine’s Day and Beyond

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This Valentine’s Day is a season of love, of showering your special someone or significant other with affection and romance. However, have you thought about showing as much love to yourself this season–and even beyond? Read More

In Love with an Addict? Better Read This

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Valentine’s Day may be a time for romance and love for most people. However, there are some who may be going through the exact opposite. This is what being in love with an addict can be.

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Warning Signs You’re in a Toxic Romantic Relationship

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While no relationship is perfect, a good relationship should make you feel happy, cared for, and respected. Reality is, not all relationships are good or healthy. Maybe you at some point or another in your life have been in a toxic romantic relationship. Maybe you’re in one now.

Want to know for sure? Check out these warning signs to know if you’re in a toxic romantic relationship that you should get out of–pronto.

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Signs You’re in a Toxic Romantic Relationship

1. You keep giving and giving. Love should be a two-way street and there’s no room for selfishness or unreciprocated emotional investments.

2. Feeling drained. You don’t have no energy in the relationship or in your life in general. Instead of feeling inspired and energized, it’s like your energy is getting sucked out constantly.

3. No trust. Love can’t last for long without trust. It simply won’t go anywhere.

4. There’s hostility. If you feel like you have to have your walls up or be on fight or flight mode whenever you’re with your partner, then it’s best to pack your bags and go.

5. Constant criticism. If you feel like you’re treading on broken glass around your significant other, then then it’s something that is going to drive you up the wall sooner or later.

6. Full or judgment. If you can’t be yourself in the relationship or you have to always watch what you do or say because of feeling constantly judged, then it’s unhealthy for you.

7. Lack of respect. When one or both of you have ceased respecting the other, then there’s no reason to be in the relationship.

8. Never-ending drama. While problems are part of relationship and even help make the relationship stronger, the constant trouble and the self-inflicted woes are simply exhausting and won’t make your relationship grow.

9. Control issues. If your partner is overly protective, possessive, and jealous to the point that you can’t do the things you normally do, then it can be stifling. You can feel trapped.

10. Direction is uncertain. If the person doesn’t want to commit, doesn’t want to take things to the next level, or you simply can’t tell what role you play in their life, then the relationship is uncertain. It’s like it has no direction and you’re better off on your own.

11. Feeling undermined. If you feel like your worth is less than your partner or that you’re not part of their priorities, then it’s best to think of your other options.

12. Full of lies. Every lie in the relationship can chip away at whatever good it is you have until your relationship feels hollow and unreal. Beware, this is one of the hallmarks of a toxic romantic relationship.

13. It brings out the worst. If the relationship only brings out the worst in you or in both of you, without any growth or improvement on both your parts, then your relationship is not only stunted but dysfunctional.

14. People are concerned. If other people who care about you, like your friends and family, are concerned about your relationship, then you may have to take their word for it and reassess your relationship.

15. Physical and emotional abuse. If you’ve been assaulted or manipulated, or abused in any other way, then it’s clear the person doesn’t respect or even love you.

16. You’re simply unhappy. You owe it to yourself to let go.

These words may be harsh, but sometimes, a wake up call is just what you need to get out of a toxic romantic relationship.

If your loved one has been abusing you or is showing negative and erratic behavior due to drugs or alcohol addiction, then you can help them break the cycle that is also affecting you as a co-dependent. For help with addiction treatment in the Philippines, seek help. Call or text Bridges of Hope: 09175098826.


 

Are You a Love Addict? Find Out the Signs of Love Addiction

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Are you a love addict? Do you think you’re obsessed with the idea of romance and being in love? Maybe that obsession is too much. Find out if you don’t simply have the love bug, but clinical love addiction.

Being in love is just awesome. You get that sweet rush with every touch or whenever you see the apple of your eye. You can’t help thinking about your love, and you count every day and every hour until you’re together again.

For some people, love is a very special thing. It makes them happy, it inspires them, and it just brightens up their day. However, there are those you can consider as love addicts in the sense that being in love can seem unhealthy and even destructive for them. Read More

Newly Sober Addicts: Why You Shouldn’t Date for a Year

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The Love Month is here, and for most people, this is the time for them to be more showy and step up their game in the romance department. However, for those who are just fresh out of rehab, it’s best for them to just stay on the sidelines. At least, this applies to single, newly sober addicts.

Single, newly sober addicts, or people who have just come out of an addiction rehab, shouldn’t date or start a new relationship in early recovery. This should be for at least a year, as many addiction professionals would also agree. Read More

Double Addiction: Stimulant Drug Abuse and Sex Addiction

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There is a large and growing subgroup of drug users who also engage in problematic sexual behavior. You will be surprised to know that here in the Philippines, in our rather conservative, predominantly Catholic society, drug-fueled sex parties are more common than you think. Read More

After Addiction: 10 Tips for Starting Your Life Anew

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Life after addiction can be daunting and overwhelming. To increase your chances for a life-long recovery and minimize relapse risks, here are 10 tips to help get you started on a new and sober life.

Admitting you have a problem is hard enough. Following through with that can be even harder, especially when you’re dealing with addiction and a years of unhealthy, destructive habits. However, the challenges don’t end there. Starting a new life after addiction can also be very daunting. Read More