Toxic is Toxic: What is Codependency

What is wrong when you are taking care of a person you love and you make sure that they’re safe?

Nothing really.

But there’s a thin line between love and codependency.

Let’s take a deep dive.

What is codependency?

Codependency is essentially two people with dysfunctional traits and they become worse together. It is a psychological construct and is, in fact, an addictive behavior

Codependency is an unhealthy relationship that is focused on control, nurturing, and blurred boundaries. This is often associated with people who are in relationships with someone who is chemically dependent, or are engaging in addictive behaviors. A classic example is a parent enabling a drug addicted adult child.

These days, however, co-dependency also encompasses dysfunctional relationships.

It is characterized by extreme emotional, social, physical, and sometimes economic dependence on another person. Often the codependent is so busy watching over others that they can’t take care of themselves and even lose their identity in the process.

Are you in a codependent relationship?

Ask yourself these questions:

1. Do you find yourself having to make extreme sacrifices as a way to satisfy your partner’s needs?
2. Do you have a hard time saying “no” to your partner?
3. Do you cover up for your partner’s troubles involving their addiction or behavior?
4. Do you constantly worry about what they think of you, like you’re walking on eggshells around them?
5. Do you feel trapped in your relationship?
6. Do you find yourself conceding or just giving way to avoid arguments and maintain peace?

At Bridges of Hope, we work with the families of our clients to identify enabling and codependent behavior Talk to us to learn more.