Concealed depression is a deceptive disease. You may not know it, but someone you love may be suffering from it. Here’s how to find out.
That barista handing you your coffee. That girl shopping for clothes. Or that mom with an adorable kid. Your cheery office mate, or even your hotshot boss. Despite all appearances, depression can be a deceptive disease. In fact, many people walk through life hiding a heavy secret called depression.
Putting on a “mask” of happiness, strength, and success, you may not realize that someone you know may have what’s called concealed depression. This is because they may have become experts at hiding their depression. This could be because they think that they can deal with it all on their own, they want to function for other people, they don’t want to be a burden, continue living their lives, uphold their reputation, or just try no acknowledging how bad their depression have become. Nevertheless, the fact remains: concealed depression, no matter how deeply you hide it, will not go away on its own if left untreated.
If you suspect that someone you know may have concealed depression, here are the signs you may want to look out for.
Signs of Concealed Depression
1. They have weird sleeping habits. Insomnia, as well as excessive sleeping, can be a signs of concealed depression. This is because they can see sleeping as a form of escape, and besides, dealing with depression can be emotionally draining.
2. They have weird eating habits. They may also over eat or have no appetite at all. Others find food comforting, while there are those who find food, even those they once like to eat, uninteresting. Food may even taste different for them.
3. General lack of energy. They are physically and emotionally drained even if they haven’t done anything. They may feel like they can’t get out of bed or are overwhelmed to the point that they can’t move.
4. Loss of interest in things they used to enjoy. For people with concealed depression, the things they used to like don’t have much appeal for them anymore. They can’t find pleasure in the things they liked doing in the past. In fact, they may even feel like there’s no point in doing anything.
5. Abusing substances in order to cope. The thoughts going through their heads can be too much, and at times, they want to escape. So, they turn to substances like alcohol and drugs in order to feel alright, even for a time. They may also turn to caffeine and sugar to boost their spirits.
6. They would rather be isolated. They lose not only the interest to do the things they used to love doing. They also tend to distance themselves from others, like from the friends they used to hang out with. They would turn down invites and would just spend time alone in their house or room.
7. They could seem very happy and upbeat. Depression often conveys images of people in the slumps, but in reality, people with depression can be the most cheerful and motivated looking people you’ll ever meet. This is because people with concealed depression can put up a front, a public demeanor, that is so much different than what is really on the inside.
8. They try to come up with their own remedies. To give them credit, they try to fight it. They would turn to remedies or habits, or even change their lifestyle. They may take on exercise, cooking lessons, painting, dancing, gardening, or music. Concealed depression remains this way because of they means people try to overcome their own demons.
9. They tend to be deep and philosophical. Depression involves a complex thought process that makes them look at life and death a different way. While not all of them may be suicidal, their mindsets can be surprisingly different. They may also perceive events in their lives different than other people.
10. They may express subtle cries for help. They know the burden they live with on a daily basis. It can be unbearable that they it’s bound to manifest itself. And these are the crucial moments: when they open up and reach out. These times can be easily overlooked, because after all, it doesn’t normally appear that there’s something wrong with them.
Concealed depression is challenging to spot. This is even true for those who are addicted to drugs or alcohol. This is because their substance abuse may be co-occurring with their depression and both conditions have to be treated.