Addiction not only affects yourself, it also has repercussions on your relationships. When you were in active addiction, you may have made enemies, broken trust with people, or even destroyed relationships. These are just some of the many tragic effects of addiction.
Now that you’re in recovery, you may think that when you leave rehab, everyone will welcome you and embrace the new you. This, however, is far from reality. The thing is, there’s still so many loose ends you have to tie up when you leave rehab and go back to your life. These loose ends include relationships: making amends with people you’ve wronged, asking for forgiveness, getting closure, repairing relationships issues.
Relationships are already hard, and when addiction comes in the equation, it becomes harder. Now that you’re sober, you’re in a much better place from which to reach out to the people you’ve hurt, wronged, betrayed, and lied to.
Here are some ways you can repair the broken relationships caused by addiction.
How to Repair Relationships Your Addiction Destroyed
- Look at it objectively. Take stock of the situation from a far-off and objective stand point. Think through the situation, the possible solutions or approaches, and the potential outcomes.
- Have a plan. Consider the best plan of action and know what your next steps are. And if things don’t go as planned, make sure you also have a backup plan.
- Set a date for talking to them. Don’t catch them off-guard. Neither should you just spring up and confront them. Set a good date, place, and time for calmly talking about your issues so both of you are in a good frame of mind and are prepared.
- Think about what you’re going to say. Instead of just winging it, plan what you want to say and how you’re going to say it. Don’t let your emotions get the best of you and turn this chance of reconciliation to waste.
- Actively listen. Don’t just talk. Let the other person also air their concerns. Own up to your own faults and be humble enough to accept their criticisms, fears, doubts, skepticism, and many other things. Make this a two-way dialogue and make them feel that you’re listening and trying to understand.
- Determine your next steps. After your conversation, find out what your next steps are in your relationship. If needed, have some closure. Not all of these conversations may necessarily lead to a desirable outcome, but make this whole experience a way for you to learn and make amends.
Relationships are tricky. Now that you’re in recovery, maintaining healthy, positive, and trust-filled relationships are important. The path to happy relationships may not be easy, but with humility, love, honesty, and a clear head, you can do it.