Are You Helping an Addict or Not? Recognizing Enabling Behavior

recognizing enabling behavior

Enabling behavior never helps an addict. This is because it shields the addict from the full impact and natural consequences of their behavior and actions. Enabling is very different from supporting or helping the addict, because on the contrary, enabling behavior further draws the addict deep into the addiction. Read More

10 Uplifting Tips to Survive a Relationship with an Addict


Having a relationship with an addict is beyond tough. We hope that these 10 uplifting tips can help you find the answers you’re looking for.

The intricacies of love, dating, and relationships are complex enough. Add addiction into the mix and you’re in for the ride of your life. This is because addiction is not like any disease. It robs you not just of your loved one’s health–it robs you of that person that you used to love as well. Read More

Warning Signs You’re in a Toxic Romantic Relationship


While no relationship is perfect, a good relationship should make you feel happy, cared for, and respected. Reality is, not all relationships are good or healthy. Maybe you at some point or another in your life have been in a toxic romantic relationship. Maybe you’re in one now.

Want to know for sure? Check out these warning signs to know if you’re in a toxic romantic relationship that you should get out of–pronto.


Signs You’re in a Toxic Romantic Relationship

1. You keep giving and giving. Love should be a two-way street and there’s no room for selfishness or unreciprocated emotional investments.

2. Feeling drained. You don’t have no energy in the relationship or in your life in general. Instead of feeling inspired and energized, it’s like your energy is getting sucked out constantly.

3. No trust. Love can’t last for long without trust. It simply won’t go anywhere.

4. There’s hostility. If you feel like you have to have your walls up or be on fight or flight mode whenever you’re with your partner, then it’s best to pack your bags and go.

5. Constant criticism. If you feel like you’re treading on broken glass around your significant other, then then it’s something that is going to drive you up the wall sooner or later.

6. Full or judgment. If you can’t be yourself in the relationship or you have to always watch what you do or say because of feeling constantly judged, then it’s unhealthy for you.

7. Lack of respect. When one or both of you have ceased respecting the other, then there’s no reason to be in the relationship.

8. Never-ending drama. While problems are part of relationship and even help make the relationship stronger, the constant trouble and the self-inflicted woes are simply exhausting and won’t make your relationship grow.

9. Control issues. If your partner is overly protective, possessive, and jealous to the point that you can’t do the things you normally do, then it can be stifling. You can feel trapped.

10. Direction is uncertain. If the person doesn’t want to commit, doesn’t want to take things to the next level, or you simply can’t tell what role you play in their life, then the relationship is uncertain. It’s like it has no direction and you’re better off on your own.

11. Feeling undermined. If you feel like your worth is less than your partner or that you’re not part of their priorities, then it’s best to think of your other options.

12. Full of lies. Every lie in the relationship can chip away at whatever good it is you have until your relationship feels hollow and unreal. Beware, this is one of the hallmarks of a toxic romantic relationship.

13. It brings out the worst. If the relationship only brings out the worst in you or in both of you, without any growth or improvement on both your parts, then your relationship is not only stunted but dysfunctional.

14. People are concerned. If other people who care about you, like your friends and family, are concerned about your relationship, then you may have to take their word for it and reassess your relationship.

15. Physical and emotional abuse. If you’ve been assaulted or manipulated, or abused in any other way, then it’s clear the person doesn’t respect or even love you.

16. You’re simply unhappy. You owe it to yourself to let go.

These words may be harsh, but sometimes, a wake up call is just what you need to get out of a toxic romantic relationship.

If your loved one has been abusing you or is showing negative and erratic behavior due to drugs or alcohol addiction, then you can help them break the cycle that is also affecting you as a co-dependent. For help with addiction treatment in the Philippines, seek help. Call or text Bridges of Hope: 09175098826.


How to Help an Addict Loved One Get into Rehab?


Watching an addict loved one succumb to the dangers of addiction can be heartbreaking. It can also be distressing and terrifying, often making you feel hopeless, like there’s nothing that you can do to help them.

As much as you want to help your addict loved one overcome their addiction, whether this is drugs, alcohol, or behavioral, at the end of the day the decision is up to them. Only they, the addict, can help themselves once they decide they need help and are open to addiction treatment.

Still, that doesn’t mean you can’t do anything. Here’s some tips that you can do on your end to help your addict loved one get into rehab–and soon! Read More

How Social Media Can Feed Sex Addiction


For those with sex addiction, social media unfortunately presents a whole new range of opportunities and problems. Indeed, sex addiction and social media can prove to be a dangerous mix.

Saying that social media is prevalent is an understatement. In fact, the way social media has infiltrated all aspects of people’s lives as well as changed the way society functions and interacts is so profound.

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The Role of Family in Your Addiction Recovery


When it comes to addiction recovery, the saying “it takes a village” also proves true. The role of family in this situation can’t be stressed enough.

For someone struggling with substance addiction, the combined support of family, friends, and peers can make successful recovery a reality.

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Tough Love and Harsh Words to Stop You From Enabling


Are you enabling a loved one with addiction? Here’s what you should know to shake you out of this enabling pattern and ultimately provide the help they badly need.

Loving someone with a substance use disorder is different. A whole lot different. They, the so-called addicted individuals, are incapable of reciprocating that love. This is because their lives are mainly driven by a force greater than love, actually: a force called addiction. But that doesn’t mean they don’t love you. They do. They just can’t choose you over their addiction. In return, you find yourself with enabling behaviors that will do them more harm than good.

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The Secret to Dealing with a Violent Spouse


The cycle of love and violence from an abusive spouse can be such a mind-boggling emotional roller coaster to deal with. Sometimes, it’s hard to find out which one is real anymore: the overly romantic words of affection, or the passive-aggressive behavior that easily escalate to life-threatening acts of violence?

Can someone who loves you really hurt you?

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Help for Families Struggling with Addiction


At Bridges of Hope, we aim to provide help for families who are also deeply affected by their loved one’s addiction. We provide counseling and support, with our rehab specialists available to readily help you with your questions. Below, we show you how else you can help yourself and your loved one struggling with addiction.

Addiction destroys not only the addict, but his family as well. Living with an addict equates to a continuous battle of wits, a never-ending struggle against fear, sadness, disappointment, suspicion, and hopelessness. Struggling to help the addict without being consumed into his world can be utterly heartbreaking and exhausting.

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Your Survival Guide to Loving an Addicted Person


Loving an addict is never easy. It lures an otherwise sober person full of potential into a destructive downward spiral–and his or her loved ones are never spared. Often, relationships and hearts get broken in the process. If you love an addict, what can you do?

Addiction comes in many forms: alcohol, drugs, shopping, porn, sex, video games, food, gambling, and many more. However, they share one thing in common–they leave destruction in their wake.

So how can you continue loving someone whom you know has a problem with addiction? How can you stay healthy, sane, and positive–while surviving it all?

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